Perfectionism in an imperfect world is something we have all experienced.
This post is inspired by Candi William’s book, “How to be Perfectly Imperfect”, where I will be quoting it throughout the post.
So, What is perfectionism?
As found by Danielle S. Molnar, there are three types of perfectionism:
- “self-orientated perfectionism” – setting high standards for yourself
- “socially prescribed perfectionism” – feeling as though others expect more from you
- “other orientated perfectionism” – placing high standards on others
(pg.12)
“Self-orientated perfectionism” is something I have struggled to deal with throughout my teen years. The constant emotional pressure I placed on myself meant that I would be harsher on myself if my goals weren’t achieved in time or I didn’t meet my own expectations.
Perfectionism Habits to Pick Up On:
- you put a lot of effort into the task at hand and beat yourself up when you don’t meet your expectations
- you feel as though everything MUST be perfect
- criticism/negative feedback hurts as it makes you feel imperfect
- obsess about mistakes and struggle to let them go
(pg.15)
So What are the Dangers of Perfectionism?
Perfectionism can contribute to anxiety, depression, eating disorders, high blood pressure and bipolar disorder.
(Bear in mind that perfectionism is merely a contributing factor and not a direct cause for these conditions.)
Trying to be perfect in an imperfect world can make you feel stressed as a whole.
We’re human, unique and beautiful in our own way!
It’s the journey to being the best version of ourselves that matters.
Live it.
Learn from it.
Cherish it.
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